Okay ... it's apparently official ... I'm a pariah.

It must come naturally, because this time I've been kicked off an adoption-related Yahoo group without even breaking a sweat.

Really.

I'd actually just joined this bunch called "Adoption Agency Research Group" because it seemed a good place from which to keep a finger on the pulse of a part of the adoption world I don't hear much about otherwise, and had been accepted ... conditional on me not taking what I read there and using it for blog fodder -- fair enough.

I'd been lurking for maybe a week, when Jessica DelBalzo's anti-adoption tirade in a handy money-making paperback format was brought up as a topic. People were asking questions, and like the helpful, but lazy, group member I am, I posted the link to a blog I'd written about the woman that highlighted a few of her less admirable qualities and underlined the fact that she appears to be just a teensy bit nutty when it comes to adoption.

Well! The NOIVE ... or something.

Yes, that brought down the wrath of some guy whose name I don't now recall who left some silly and irrelevant comments on my blogs and then, I guess, managed to get me booted out of the group.

Now I don't know this for sure, but all of a sudden I stopped receiving the digest version of group posts and was locked out of the site.

Okay ...

Possibly contrary to what some may imagine my reaction to such blatant rudeness to be, I neither panicked nor suffered any bouts of rejection-related angst. I simply moved on with my life, for what it is, and let it slide ... until the next step.

The next step in the process of giving Sandra the old heave ho, came as a bit of a surprise. I received something called an "exit survey" in my inbox.

Thank you for trying out the Adoption Agency Research Group. We hope
you found the experience informative and beneficial.


Please take just a moment to give us some feedback. When you've
through, please return this survey to: blah, blah, blah. (It didn't really say that.)

- Did you find what you were looking for on our website?

- How could we have made your experience better?

- In what other ways could we improve?


Thank you for your time,

The Moderators
Adoption Agency Research Group

Hello?

Rather than go into any detail about how they could have made my experience better, I asked ... nicely, I might add ... why I had been jettisoned from the group like a sack of three-day-old fish guts, and why said jettisoning had been done without a single word in my direction.

No answer.

Hey! I've been thrown off groups with more class and clout than this one, so I'm not likely to cry in my curry or slink away into the sunset with my tail between my legs and my fragile little ego crushed, but I would like someone to step up with a reason for my unceremonious dismissal. (I would have liked at least a little ceremony ... nothing fancy, just a small cake, and a hat would have been nice ... )