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01/06/08

Couple Denied Adoption because of DWI

Posted by : Coley S. in Adoption News Blog at 11:02 pm , 469 words, 1321 views  
Categories: January 2008
Michelle and Andrew Ransavage, a couple from Minnesota, have been denied the ability to bring home the daughter that they named Mia and are in the process of adopting from China because of a conviction on charges of Driving While Impaired (DWI) against Andrew in January of 2007.

The adoption was approved by the adoption agency in 2007 but was stalled because of the conviction. While Michelle and her parents were in China to bring two and half year old Mia home in November, Andrew (who was at home in the US) received word that Mia’s move to the United States was denied by the regional office of the United States Citizenship and Immigration Services (also known as CIS) because of the DWI conviction.

According to the article in The Independent, the adoption agency knew of the conviction and notified the Chinese government so all were baffled at the denial. After receiving the initial denial from CIS, the couple made a motion to have the case re-opened but that motion was also denied by CIS in December of 2007.

In the article, Andrew calls it a “terrible mistake” and is remorseful. According to Michelle, many people find this situation unfair and unjust and they are hoping the “right person” will here their story and be able to help them.

To make sure I completely understood what a DWI charge was (I’ve only heard it called Driving Under the Influence or DUI) I looked up the definition. When I looked that up, I learned that the terms DUI and DWI are interchangeable and mean the same thing.


Driving under the influence of alcohol, driving while intoxicated, drunk driving, drinking and driving is the act of operating a motor vehicle (and even a bicycle, boat or horse in some jurisdictions) after having consumed alcohol (ethanol) or other drugs, to the degree that mental and motor skills are impaired. – Source

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I know that birthparents in international adoptions are usually not involved in the process of selecting adoptive parents, but I couldn’t help but put it in that context and think how a birthmother would feel if she knew her child was going to a family where the father had recently been convicted of a DWI.

Some may think I am too harsh, but as a birthmother I would not have knowingly placed my child with someone that I knew had a DWI or DUI conviction. Now if the conviction had been years ago, that might be a different story, but this was just a year ago! I would be fearful that he might do it again and this time have a child in the car!

So as it stands now, Mia is still in China and the couple has filed an appeal with CIS but have yet to hear word on it.

Comments, Pingbacks:

Comment from: Deb Donatti [Member] Email · http://open.adoptionblogs.com
Coley, In other aricles they mention how he was quick to report this to the adoption agency,and went through extreme measures to do what they and the Chinese Gov. required to prove this a one time lapse of judgement. He also went through extra training programs and even became a member of a 12-step program (although he was not accused of being an alcoholic by any means.) The child was legally adopted by them, that is not in question. Both the agency and the Chinese Gov. approved the adoption with full knowledge of his mistake, and his efforts to correct it. The child is now their legal daughter, but is being denied a visa by the U.S. based on her father's mistake of over a year ago. WHY is the CHILD being punished? If the father was unsuitable because of this, then the adoption should have been denied.
I have a real problem with this because although the guy made a mistake, he came clean immediatly, did everything he was asked to make it right, and so why does it continue to be an issue?
To me this is just another example of how it is ok to expect adoptive parents to somehow be perfect. I would advise any mother considering placement of her baby that she will never find "perfect' adoptive parents. Most of us are human, we do make mistakes, we have errors in judgement. It is how those mistakes are handled that show us the most about the person.
A placing mother should want to know this information, but if there was no edvidence the man had done anything beyond a one time lapse in judgement, I am not sure that should rule them out.
PermalinkPermalink 01/07/08 @ 10:02
Comment from: Sunbonnet Sue [Member] Email
I must agree with Coley on this one. The fellow really showed a huge error in judgement to drive while intoxicated. He surely knew it would put his pending adoption at risk if he were to be caught? There also is a big difference between "youthful" errors and current ones!
PermalinkPermalink 01/07/08 @ 17:24
Comment from: Coley S. [Member] Email · http://unplanned-pregnancy.adoptionblogs.com/
I'm glad he came forward quickly and got help!
PermalinkPermalink 01/07/08 @ 20:27
Comment from: cathym [Member]
Wow, I have to agree with Deb. My husband made the same mistake over 2 years ago and it has cost us any chance of adoption. We were out of town, on vacation and he was barely over the limit. He was not pulled over for driving infraction but for a tail light that was out. None of these are excuses and he has paid his fine and attended classes, done everything the law required and a little more. Would we have ever done it if we had children with us? NO! Does he regret it? Every day! Does it mean that we would not be good parents? NO! I am so angry and disappointed that we are not able to fufill this dream and that the children we plan to bring home will now sit in a orphanage for longer, possibly forever, over one mistake. I feel badly for this man and think it is extremely unfair. I challenge you to try and find "perfect, unblemished" biological parents.
PermalinkPermalink 01/31/08 @ 04:17
Comment from: Coley S. [Member] Email · http://open.adoptionblogs.com
I've never met any perfect, unblemished parents - biological or adoptive - that's inhuman. That's not what I was looking for when I was looking for adoptive parents for my son either.

I don't think this should exclude adoptive parents from adopting EVER - but these people were in the process of adopting when he received the DUI. This family has since been given the approval to bring their daughter home.
PermalinkPermalink 01/31/08 @ 06:19
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